My oldest son, who has been on the fast track since 4th grade has decided he will not be going to college. It’s not a definitive “not going” but a not going upon graduation.
Am I happy that my child, who fought his way into the gifted cluster (2E), who gained early acceptance into NASA in his sophomore year, who has 2 colleges interested in him for baseball, has suddenly decided furthering his education is not his priority at this time. At first, No, I wanted to kick and scream, put my foot down and force him to go but I took a step back and looked at the whole picture.
This same child, works 30 hours a week at Target while completing HS and taking college course. He is in the final stages of earning his eagle scout and has become a leader in his troop. He has become a certified umpire and umpires girls softball and little league. He works weekends on a farm tending sheep and cows, clearing fields of brush, rebuilding worn bridges, and other general upkeep.
This may not be my plan but he seems to have a plan and he’s a happy, productive citizen. I couldn’t be more proud of the man he has become.
So this goes to say, even when we want better things for our kids, we need to stop and take inventory of what direction they are steering themselves, then stop and trust that we raised them right and it’s time to let them spread their wings and fly.
– Alicia Frye, Spectrum Mom